What would you do if you find out that your spouse is cheating on you?
After one Singaporean man (SM) reportedly found out that his wife was cheating on him, he sought revenge by documenting his cheating wife’s text messages to her married lover on a blog.
Infidelity in marriage
It is a sad reality that the divorce rate around the world is increasing and that infidelity in marriage is a fairly common thing in society.
While this is an issue that several married couples face, there are many different ways individuals deal with the pain and betrayal.
So when SM came to light on his wife’s long-standing affair with a married man, he decided to expose her infidelity for the rest of the world to see on a blog aptly titled ‘My Cheating Wife’.
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Why he started the blog?
SM writes that he has been aware that his wife has been unfaithful for some time, but chose to look the other way because he still loved her.
“I loved her with all my heart and she has broken my heart. I no longer have any tears but only revenge is on my mind,” he writes.
Busted!
SM uncovered the extent of his wife’s betrayal when he gifted her with a new mobile phone with a phone spy software called Handphone Spy installed.
With the phone spy software, SM could monitor all phone calls, text messages, instant messages, emails, GPS location, internet activities and even listen in to the phone’s surroundings.
Wife’s text messages to lover published on blog
In his anger, heart-broken SM published three pages of text messages that his wife exchanged with her lover.
In the pages of text messages, the couple described in detail their illicit tryst and yearning for one another.
Through the text messages, SM also discovered that the affair has been going on for so long that his daughter isn’t even biologically his. But despite this, he still sees the girl as his daughter.
“Right now, I am just like a zombie. I have been betrayed by someone who I thought would be there by my side when I was in my 60s and 70s. Someone who I thought would be there when I was old and senile,” SM shares on his blog.
We sympathize with SM deeply, and we can’t imagine how hard it must be for him and his daughter.
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How to tell your kids you’re getting a divorce
From what we can gather, the next step is divorce for SM. Although not all infidelity cases will end in divorce if you choose to go down that alley here are some tips on how to break the news to your kid(s) the right way.
Don't play the blame game
You and your spouse know the reason behind your divorce. But it doesn’t necessarily mean that your kids need to know the reason behind the separation. Why? If you blame your soon-to-be ex for the divorce, you may be giving your child a reason to pick sides. This is unhealthy for your child to feel that a parent is to blame for the break up. So keep your opinions about your ex to yourself!
It’s not the kid’s fault
Many kids blame themselves for their parents’ divorce, so make sure that your kids know that it’s not their fault. Instead, you can choose to tell your kid something along the lines of "We grew apart” or that "Your mom/dad is a great but we just don't get along as a couple".
What to expect in the future
Letting your kids know what to expect can help ease their anxieties. So try to be as specific as possible when telling your kids what will happen in the future in terms of schooling and living arrangements. Give them concrete information and don’t make promises that you can’t keep!
Keep calm
Your kids are always watching you. So if you’re anxious, they will be anxious. It’s okay to be upset, but it’s not okay for parents to be out of control in front of their kids. Take a breath, and be there for your children. It is a tough time for them too and they need their parents to tell them it’s going to be okay.
Disclaimer: theAsianparent Malaysia do not believe that the story is true and we suspect that it may be a viral marketing campaign for Handphone Spy.
What do you think? Do you think this story is real or just another marketing ploy?
Sources:
Man Exposes Cheating Wife’s Texts Messages on Revenge Blog
8 Tips on Telling Your Kids You're Getting a Divorce