Even though these behaviours may seem loving and romantic on the surface, they're actually toxic and highly abusive.
Emotional abuse is hard to detect, so much so that we often only realise it’s happening when we’re already entrenched in misery. That’s because abusers are usually very good at disguising their manipulative behaviour as gestures of love and affection. Here are some examples of behaviour that look like love but can actually be abuse, compiled from Bustle and FamilyShare.
1. “It’s because I love you”
If your partner is controlling and irrationally jealous, but justifies his bad behaviour by saying “it’s only because I love you so much,” don’t buy into it. Your partner should trust and respect you, not try to control your behaviour.
2. Demanding all of your time
Sure, it’s normal to want to spend a lot of time with your partner, but if your partner starts demanding that you stop spending time with your friends and family, watch out. Isolating you from your friends and family is a manipulative strategy abusers use to ensure that you become totally dependent on them, with brings us to the next point…
3. “Taking care” of you
Yes, we all want someone to watch our backs and take care of us, but when your partner won’t allow you to be independent (i.e. work, save money, get an education), that’s a sign of abuse. This allows them to control you by cutting off your access to resources that
On the next page: more subtle signs of emotional abuse.