Marriage, depression and suicide!
Think again when you picture living happily ever after with your perfect mate. Along with your partner, comes the family and all the baggage they carry with them. For one husband, it became so physically brutal and depressing, he committed suicide!
In 2012, Lokesh, a make-up artist of New Delhi, India, married his wife, Sheetal, a tour and travel company employee. They lived with Lokesh’s parents, and their eight month old baby boy. The honeymoon was quickly over, and soon frequent quarrelling started, and having a new baby compounded the differences they had.
By May 2013, the honeymoon was truly over. Lokesh’s family said that Sheetal was spending most of her days at her parent’s house, presumably without her baby. Things came to a climax on May 14, when Sheetal’s parents came to the couple’s home, assaulted Lokesh and took Sheetal away, leaving their 8-month old baby behind.
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Beaten to depression
Six days later on May 20, Lokesh went to Sheetal’s home in an attempt to persuade her to return with him, but he was again beaten, Depressed, humiliated and driven to the brink, Lokesh had had enough. He returned home, wrote a 7-page suicide note which described the torment his in-laws had put him through, and committed suicide by hanging.
Help! My in-laws are driving me crazy!
What would you do if you were in a similar position? What if you became so depressed that you start to contemplate extreme action? Here are some tips to “handle” your in-laws presented by Dr. Phil, arguably the most popular mental health professional. He talks to Kathy, a real person who is having problems with her mother-in-law. She wants help because “I love my husband too much to let some witchy woman ruin the good thing we have.”
1. Advice for the mother-in-law:
- Remembers you are a guest in THEIR home!
- Your daughter-in-laws feelings are very real for her, not to be dismissed.
- Let your daughter-in-law make mistakes. It is your job to support her.
- Let your daughter-in-law define her own boundaries.
- Everything you do is a gift to your son and your granddaughter.
2. Advice for the daughter-in-law:
- You’re the mom now so get the chip off your shoulder, and stop being so sensitive.
- Your mother-in-law does has invested a lifetime in your husband. Remember you both love him.
- Try to see things from your mother-in-law’s perspective.
3. Advice for the son:
- It is your job to intervene and fix problems between the now two most important women in your life.
- Your first loyalty is to your wife.
Help and support
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