X
theAsianparent Malaysia Logo
theAsianparent Malaysia Logo
EnglishMalay
Product GuideSign in
  • Becoming a Parent
    • Project Sidekicks
    • Pregnancy
    • Losing A Baby
    • Conceiving a Baby
    • Adoption
    • Labour & Delivery
  • Ages & Stages
    • Baby
    • Child
    • Pre-Teen & Teen
  • Parenting
    • Parenting Tips
    • Marriage, Relationship & Sex
    • Viral News
  • Health
    • Illness
    • Allergy & Syndrome
    • Vaccinations
    • Give Health A Shot
  • Breastfeeding & Nutrition
    • Breastfeeding
    • Healthy Meal Tips
    • Formula
  • Education
    • Preschool
    • Primary School
    • Middle School
    • Special Education
  • Money Parenting
    • Tips for Parents
    • Tips for Toddlers
    • Tips for Older Kids
    • The 5 Personas
  • Lifestyle
    • Money
    • Contests & Promotions
    • Holiday
    • Spirituality
    • Home
  • TAP Recommends
  • Press Room
  • Products
  • Awards
    • Parents' Choice Awards 2023
  • Advertise With Us

A heartfelt plea to dads: Here's why you shouldn't let your wife take that selfie

4 min read
A heartfelt plea to dads: Here's why you shouldn't let your wife take that selfie

Because her hands are not always empty and her mind not always free.

A recent article caught my eye about the sad reason why mums often take selfies of themselves and their kids.

In it, the author talks about a friend whose mother passed away. This friend was looking for photographs of himself and his mother, but he could not find any, except for one really old picture of himself as a toddler with her.

Just one photo during her lifetime as his mother.

These days, we have smartphones equipped with cameras and for many mums, taking selfies with their little ones is the only way they’ll ever get a picture of themselves with their children. So, they document their lives as mothers by themselves because technology lets them do this and others don’t have the time to snap these precious moments for them.

But it shouldn’t always be this way. As your wife’s soul mate, her significant other, this plea is for you.

So.

Dear dads,

Please don’t misunderstand me – you are a much-contributing partner in this beautiful and sometimes tiring dance of parenthood along with your wife, and I truly acknowledge this.

But let’s be honest. Your wife contributes a significant amount of her time, effort and love to raising and nurturing your beautiful children. I know, and you know she wouldn’t have it any other way. At the same time, being a mum sometimes can feel like a thankless job.

Let me tell you something, though. Even though there are days your wife seems to have had enough of it all, she repents the moment she sees your children innocently asleep, or when they say the most genuine ‘sorry’ in the world to her.

Snap this moment for her and capture the softness in her face and the tenderness in her eyes as she melts. She can’t take a selfie because her hands are gently stroking the hair and face of your child.

When the kids are finally in bed and she’s done for the day, exhausted, curled up on the sofa and sipping a hot cup of tea, take her picture. She can’t take a selfie because her hands are wrapped around the warmth of her cup.

Your child’s first day of preschool has come and you take picture after picture of your little one in her oversized uniform, looking like a big girl but still such a baby.

Don’t forget to take a picture of your wife too to forge memories of this landmark day. Snap that moment of pure pride on her face that shines through the sadness and add it to the vignette of motherhood memories being created.

She can’t take a selfie because her hands are busy wiping away her tears of joy and sadness at your baby girl’s first steps into the ‘real world.’

Don’t hesitate to photograph your wife because her hair is messy, her face is bare and she is still in her PJs. She might brush you away when you take out your phone or camera, but take that candid snap anyway.

She won’t take a selfie because she thinks she doesn’t look beautiful and only tired. But you know better than this. You see her beauty, right? Capture that moment. And one day, when the kids have left the nest and you are older, wiser, she’ll wonder at her beauty too as she revisits the moment.

Mothers are an integral part of their children’s life, but too often, their moments of motherhood are only captured as thoughts and memories that might fade, and her constant presence is rendered invisible by Time.

Help preserve these memories – the good and the not-so-good. Snap that picture and make the memory of her Motherhood moments immortal.

Because she can’t always take that selfie.

Share your thoughts on this article in a comment below. 

 

Partner Stories
Say It With Oreo Kini Kembali Dengan Lebih Menarik! Jadikan Momen Duduk Di Rumah Lebih Menyeronokkan!
Say It With Oreo Kini Kembali Dengan Lebih Menarik! Jadikan Momen Duduk Di Rumah Lebih Menyeronokkan!
Tawaran Sah Hanya Pada 11.11 Sahaja! Beli Friso Gold & Bawa Pulang Hadiah Edisi Terhad & Peluang Untuk Memenangi Baucar Pelancongan ke Belanda!
Tawaran Sah Hanya Pada 11.11 Sahaja! Beli Friso Gold & Bawa Pulang Hadiah Edisi Terhad & Peluang Untuk Memenangi Baucar Pelancongan ke Belanda!
Jom Lihat Bagaimana Ibu Bapa Asia Mengajar Anak-Anak Tentang Wang
Jom Lihat Bagaimana Ibu Bapa Asia Mengajar Anak-Anak Tentang Wang
How Does Picky Eating Affect My Child's Growth?
How Does Picky Eating Affect My Child's Growth?

Got a parenting concern? Read articles or ask away and get instant answers on our app. Download theAsianparent Community on iOS or Android now!

img
Written by

Ayu Idris

  • Home
  • /
  • Husband & Wife
  • /
  • A heartfelt plea to dads: Here's why you shouldn't let your wife take that selfie
Share:
  • An Open Letter to All Dads

    An Open Letter to All Dads

  • “Your wife needs you”: An open letter to all dads

    “Your wife needs you”: An open letter to all dads

  • Pastikan Gigi Bayi Tumbuh Sempurna, Guna Ubat Gigi Yang Betul Untuk Anak Bawah 1 Tahun!

    Pastikan Gigi Bayi Tumbuh Sempurna, Guna Ubat Gigi Yang Betul Untuk Anak Bawah 1 Tahun!

  • Rambut Anak Lambat Tumbuh, Kulit Berkerak? Atasi Dengan Minyak Rambut Baby Yang Selamat Untuk Si Manja

    Rambut Anak Lambat Tumbuh, Kulit Berkerak? Atasi Dengan Minyak Rambut Baby Yang Selamat Untuk Si Manja

  • An Open Letter to All Dads

    An Open Letter to All Dads

  • “Your wife needs you”: An open letter to all dads

    “Your wife needs you”: An open letter to all dads

  • Pastikan Gigi Bayi Tumbuh Sempurna, Guna Ubat Gigi Yang Betul Untuk Anak Bawah 1 Tahun!

    Pastikan Gigi Bayi Tumbuh Sempurna, Guna Ubat Gigi Yang Betul Untuk Anak Bawah 1 Tahun!

  • Rambut Anak Lambat Tumbuh, Kulit Berkerak? Atasi Dengan Minyak Rambut Baby Yang Selamat Untuk Si Manja

    Rambut Anak Lambat Tumbuh, Kulit Berkerak? Atasi Dengan Minyak Rambut Baby Yang Selamat Untuk Si Manja

Get advice on your pregnancy and growing baby. Sign up for our newsletter
  • Conceiving a Baby
    • Adoption
    • Pregnancy
    • Labour & Delivery
    • Marriage, Relationship & Sex
  • Baby
    • Baby Names
    • Ages & Stages
    • Parenting Tips
    • Breastfeeding & Nutrition
  • Health
    • Fitness
    • Allergy & Syndrome
    • Illness
    • Healthy Meal Tips
  • Education
    • Preschool
    • Primary School
    • Middle School
    • Special Education
  • Lifestyle
    • Home
    • Money
    • Holiday
    • Contests & Promotions
  • More
    • TAP Community
    • Advertise With Us
    • Contact Us
    • Become a Contributor


  • Singapore flag Singapore
  • Thailand flag Thailand
  • Indonesia flag Indonesia
  • Philippines flag Philippines
  • Malaysia flag Malaysia
  • Sri-Lanka flag Sri Lanka
  • India flag India
  • Vietnam flag Vietnam
  • Australia flag Australia
  • Japan flag Japan
  • Nigeria flag Nigeria
  • Kenya flag Kenya
© Copyright theAsianparent 2023. All rights reserved
About Us|Team|Privacy Policy|Terms of Use |Sitemap HTML
  • Tools
  • Articles
  • Feed
  • Poll

We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

We use cookies to ensure you get the best experience. Learn MoreOk, Got it

theAsianparent heart icon
Kami ingin menghantar anda pemberitahuan untuk berita terkini dan gaya hidup terkini.