6 Things Daughters Need From Their Fathers
Daughters need their Fathers too
Fathers as role models, can it be applied for daughters too?
They wouldn’t have come up with the name “Daddy’s girl” if daughters didn’t have a special relationship with their fathers. Daughter’s need Fathers too:
From infancy, daughters draw conclusions about what men are like from the men in their life. If there is a father (or a male in her life who takes a father role), that man becomes her guidepost for what to expect of men and what to expect of men’s attitude toward women. – Psychcentral.com
1. She needs you to be involved
A daughter wants, if not needs her father to be actively and genuinely interested in her life. And actively interested here does not mean the usual day to day conversations about school, life and friends. Real things, like actually getting involved and being an active participant in the things that interests her.
How about making the effort and time to do the things she really want to do, without any interruptions or distractions. Do you even know what her real passions are?
2. She needs you to demonstrate a healthy marriage
Because the first relationship she is exposed to is that between her mother and father. As a father you set the bar for her future relationships with other men.
So do not disrespect your wife with physical or emotional abuse, or your daughter may grow up thinking that, that is acceptable in a relationship.
Show her a husband that respects, loves and cherishes. One who practices true partnership in a marriage, so that your daughter will know what to look for in a future life partner.
3. She needs you to support her
Remember when she was young and you might have gotten annoyed when she messed up the house with her arts and craft things, projects and drawings? Remember the look on her face when you told her to stop doing things like that?
She still needs to feel you support her, support what she loves to do – whether it be the love for crafts, or the fact that she’s good with her hands – which believe it or not, could be something she initially picked up from watching you.
I really do believe that it matters a lot to daughters to have their father’s approval. When a father fully and wholeheartedly supports his daughter, she will develop strong self-esteem and a positive self-image.
Of course I don’t mean for fathers to always agree or give in to their daughters. Instead, show them that you trust and always believe in them as a person and have confidence in their abilities.
4. She needs to trust you as a confidante
When your daughter has personal issues and problems to discuss with you, do your best to stop whatever you are doing and give her your undivided time.
Keeping the communication channels open is very important. However, showing respect and being someone who she can trust, to be there for her is far more important.
5. She needs your unconditional love
She needs to be assured that no matter how badly she messes up, her father will still be there for her and would still love her unconditionally. Not to demean and to ridicule her for the things she has done, but to forgive her and to help her through it.
6. She needs a positive role model
Set a good example and be a positive male role model in her life. It good to have fathers as role models.
Show her that chivalry isn’t dead and set the standard for all the men she will meet in her life. Reflect on your shortcomings and think about what habits you need to break.
What are some parts of you that could use some improvement? When you share that kind of openness to change for the better, you are providing her with the best example she could have in accepting responsibility for her own actions.
She will in turn inherit the same openness and willingness to examine and better her own weaknesses. Admitting you are wrong is not weak, in fact it takes a lot of courage and humility to do so. So we can come to a conclusion that fathers as role models are in fact a valid statement.