Malaysian bullying video gone viral
A video of a secondary school student being bullied has gone viral on Facebook, bringing up the serious issue about bullying in schools in Malaysia. Read on for advice on how you can identify the signs that your kid is being bullied as well as how you can help your child deal with bullies.
The bullying video is now viral!
A video of a secondary school boy being beaten up by several of his schoolmates has gone viral on Facebook.
The video has been recently shared on the official Royal Malaysia Police Facebook page which has generated over 12,000 shares and over 11,000 ‘likes’.
The video which is believed to have been filmed with a mobile phone starts with a group of students in school uniform playing around in a classroom. They are seen posing, smiling and shouting in front of the camera.
Bullying Video: Video suddenly turns violent
However, about 40 seconds into the video, one of the students wearing a grey t-shirt started kicking and punching another student.
The student continued to punch and kick the helpless victim for around 20 seconds before two other students joined in to attack the victim.
The victim who was still carrying his bag, was hunched over and covering his face across the duration of the attack.
A plastic rubbish bin was thrown at the victim by the student wearing grey before another schoolmate stepped in to break up the fight.
The attack ended after 40 seconds of continuous beating after students in the background shouted: “Dahlah, dahlah (enough)”.
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Bullying Video: No remorse from bullies
Towards the end of the video, the student in the grey T-shirt was seen smiling directly into the camera.
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Bullying Video: Bullies expelled from school
Sources state that three of the students that were caught on camera bullying their schoolmate have been expelled from their school in Seberang Jaya.
It is reported that the students were 15-years-old and were classmates of the victim.
Although the victim did not lodge a police report, police filed their own report based on video recording of the incident which went viral on Facebook.
Police are investigating the case under Section 147 of the Penal Code for rioting.
Signs your kid is being bullied
It can be hard to identify if your child is being bullied. This is especially so if your child doesn’t confide in you and when you don’t see any visible injuries.
However, there are some warning signs that you can look out for:
You may find your child acting anxious or moody. He or she may also get easily upset.
Change in behaviour
Parents may notice their child acting differently. They may also be lacking sleep, have a loss of appetite, or loses interest in things they usually enjoy.
Avoiding situations or places
You may also find your child avoiding certain situations or places. Your child may refuse to go to school or take the bus because of a bully.
Get your child to open up
If you suspect that your child is being bullied. Find a way to talk about the issue at hand in a more roundabout way.
For instance, you may want to talk about any bullying experiences you or another family member had at your child’s age.
You can also spark a conversation about a case of bullying from a TV show, asking your child "What do you think of this?", which can then lead to questions like: "Have you ever seen this happen?" or "Have you ever experienced this?"
Parents should let their kids know that if they’re being bullied (or if they see it happening), they should talk to someone about it – whether it’s you, a family member, teacher or a friend.
How to help your kids
If your child tells you about a bully, focus on offering comfort and support to your child. Kids are usually hesitant to open up to their parents about bullying because they feel embarrassed and ashamed that it's happening, they also worry that their parents will be disappointed.
A common reaction to bullying is self-blame. Kids sometime feel like it's their fault that they’re being bullied. They often feel that if they looked or acted differently they won’t be bullied.
Why kids are hesitant to talk about bullying
Some children are scared to tell parents because they’re afraid that the bullying will get worse if the bully finds out people knew. Other kids may worry that their parents won't believe them or won’t do anything about it. Your child may also worry that their parents will urge them to fight back when they're scared to.
How parents can handle the situation
Be sure to praise your child for being brave enough to talk about it. Highlight that the bully is the one who is behaving badly — not your child. Reassure your child that you will figure out what to do about it together.
Parents must take the bullying situation seriously, especially if you hear that the bullying is getting worse.
You may want to seek help from teachers or counsellors first. And if you did this with no avail, you may want to speak to the bully’s parents. It is best to do this in a context where a school official, such as a counsellor, can mediate.
If the bullying situation gets worse, and if you have serious concerns about your child's safety, you may need to contact legal authorities.